(03/03/17) During the Valentine’s Series Oracle Circle, “It's Complicated”, we had a complaint that I was going off subject. I loved the feedback. This individual spoke up and disagreed with me, rather than keeping it bottled up and staying mad beyond the completion of the event.
From time to time I hear comments, complaints, or concerns that could have easily been asked of me at the time of relevance, but weren’t. By staying quiet, these opportunities of self-discovery are squandered' - and at times turned into detrimental beliefs, which destroy. This is similar to carrying the burden of a hurtful moment for years, possibly even passing the frequency of it onto future generations. If only the initial incident had been discussed, the individual may have realized their perception that lead to feeling hurt, in truth, originated from a mere misunderstanding.
My staff pointed the Oracle Circle comment out to me, as I always prefer to take other’s thoughts into consideration. I transparently responded to the comment, and was also reminded of idiosyncrasies I’ve observed in individuals who take longer, and/or have a harder time transforming.
These observations are something I’ve been wanting to share for awhile. If you often have issues with others, or always feel life gives you the short-end of the stick, take a step back to study the details.
Ask yourself these questions:
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Are you often complaining, pointing fault, or feeling like a rebel - where you have to stand-up for yourself, and fight for your rights?
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Are you doing so because (a) you really want to have a clearer understanding, or (b) you want to protect your beliefs, which may be based in insecurity.
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Do you find yourself often feeling hurt interacting with people? It could be your spouse, the cashier, or even a stranger passing by?
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What is the emotional charge, and where is it coming from?
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Is the concern valid for the current experience, or is it being amplified by a past, unresolved, and possibly awful experience?
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Where is the understanding of your belief coming from? Did you do valid research, gaining a holistic understanding - or does it come from your life experience? If you find it comes from life experience - has this area of your life, for which this belief is being supported, been beneficial for you?
This exercise is a great way to overcome insecurities and embrace change. As you ascend, higher transparency, being 100% truthful to yourself, is key for advancement.
I know there are questions you would like to ask of me. Business or personal. Here is your chance. Email us at [email protected] (Subject: Mas Note Question) any question you have about me, and I will answer it in an upcoming forum, podcast or live on a free call. This is a great opportunity for us all.
Notice What You Notice,
Mas Sajady